What should we do? As in, what is the biblical thing to do?

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Mashu

Ok, I will attempt to explain everything in enough detail to pain the picture.

Basically, I live at home with my parents and 2 sisters. I just turned 22, my sister who is involved with the problem just turned 20. She has been dating a guy for 5 years, and in January they got engaged.

He still lives with his parents as well. The only problem is, his family life is not the best. He is adopted and is 20 years old. He has a 16 year old sister that threatens him, and his parents, if she doesn't get what she wants. To give an idea of how bad she really is, someone played a simple joke on her at camp. They took butter and cream and made it look like a ice cream dish, and she took offense to it. She stole the guys cell phone, and keys, then drove his car a mile away from camp. (There was 3 feet of snow on the ground. And it was night when she did it.) She took butter and smeared it all over his seat, cell phone, steering wheel, then didn't tell him where his car was. So he had to go out at night, the middle of winter, to find it. Thats just who she is.

She steals his money, uses his computer to do whatever, and because his parents won't let him lock the room, she can do it without any obstacles.

His mom reminds me of my grandma. She has to be in complete control, and when she loses it, she regains it by any means necessary. One of the latest things is, they pretty much made him get a new car because his first car was still in their name. They chose a car that was about 6k, after trade in it was like 4k. He agreed to give them 1600 of his tax return. Well, he over paid and got back almost 3. She decided she wanted it all, and after he signed it, she cashed it. Then after 6 months of paying 200 a month, he still owes almost 1k. Thats the kind of person she is.

His dad is pretty much the opposite. Laid back kinda person. Don't step on his feet and he won't step on yours type of person. So he more or less backs up his wife instead of the other way around.

So pretty much he wanted out. He's 20 now, so its only natural. So my parents told my sister and him they had to talk to the pastor they were doing counseling through. They came back and said it was a bad idea, but he said it was their choice. So my parents decided to clean up an empty room we have, and he moved in like 5 days ago.

Suddenly on Friday, the pastor they went through, not the main pastor, called and set up a meeting between both parents, minus my sister and her fiancee. After the meeting, my dad felt horrible, and so did my mom. But my dad shows his emotions more. He basically said he has to move out because there was a miscommunication.

Last night, which was after the meeting on Saturday, they met at his parents house, and they basically told him he had to move back in with his parents. He didn't take it too well and ended up going with a friend to some place up north, like 2 hrs away. He originally wasn't going to go, but it pushed him over the edge. Basically, we hope, he just went to his friends up there. Its one people don't approve of, but its better then other stuff he might do. Basically he wasn't a good teenager till he came to God. My sister has helped him along the way and he has changed alot in just a few years. And his best friend, who is on the worship team at church with my sister, told her that he thinks its stupid and he would risk getting kicked off the worship team if it were him. Basically, he said he saw a huge change in just the few days he was here. And so has everyone else.

At home, he was always late to work. He would get up, play videogames, lose track of time, then be late. At work he played games, and played more when he got home. He was never here when he said he would be, because he would be lost in a game. He has played maybe 4 hours total since he moved in here. He is early to work, and he appears happier. Even I can tell a change.

But the pastor's, including the main, don't agree with it. They didn't say "no", but they highly advised against it because it creates temptation. They are in seperate rooms here, they follow strict rules, and my other sister stays up later then anyone, (3-4 am).

The way we all see it is, if they wanted to do anything, then are adults and can find easy ways. For example, when my sister house sits for 2 weeks every few months. Theres no one there or even around the house because its in the brush type of place. He could go there and do things. Or when his parents leave for a weekend, they could lie about where they are going and go there. If they wanted to, they could just get a motel. But they don't because they were both brought up by Christian parents. (My sister longer then him though because he was adopted)

So basically we have his family, who said yes originally, now saying no. The pastor's say no without saying no. And then my family who see's the whole thing as being stupid.

My dad called

Answer
All you can do is keep praying.
"And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints." -Ephesians 6: 18

How can YOU tell if you are horse crazy?

Ahren

Or mule, or donkey crazy. ;D I'd like to hear yours!

Here are mine, these all happened to me =):
1. When you hear love songs on the radio, you immediately think about your special someone... your horse.
2. Your washer is full of saddle pads.
3. Your clothes are covered in mud/horse sweat/hay/horse hair almost every day.
4. Your teachers ask you to please stop drawing horses on your homework.
5. You volunteer to scoop your horses pen in the pouring rain, in the dark, all alone just to spend extra time with him, then when you are finished wait an extra hour for them to come pick you up, and not regret it at all. :D
6. Ever extra penny of your wages go to your horses board.

What about you?
Love them. =)

6. When you go around the back of your car, you pat it so it knows you are there.
7. You are training your dog to do horse commands, whoa, walk, trot etc. XD Makes it a lot easier to walk her!
8. You hear a mom talk about colic, and you immediately think about horse colic.

(Just spent 3:00 singing and walking my poor colicy horse around. -_- REALLY tired.)

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1) When in the car, you cluck at people moving too slow.
2) When you're in the halls at school, you say "Coming on the outside/inside."
3) Your horse is your best friend.
4) You ride first, then do homework.
5) Your hands are calloused to the point where they are gloves themselves.
6) People ask you why you have some extra baling twine in your backpack
7) More money goes to your horse's feed than yours.
8) You wash blankets and saddle pads more often then your own clothes.
9) Your favorite place to shop is the 4-H tack sale.
10) Your only pair of shoes are riding boots and water proof mud boots.
11) You go to school with hay in your hair and stuck to your clothes.
12) Your favorite vacations are horse shows.
13) The only gossip you've ever engaged in is the latest love lives of the barn mares.
14) Whenever you go camping, your horse comes too.
15) You make money during the summer by cleaning stalls and bucking hay.
16) The only weights you've lifted in your life are hay bales and sawdust bags.
17) Your entire Christmas list are things for your horse.
18) You've been bucked off, splattered in mud, had your foot stepped on, had your clothes pooped on, cleaned out a dirty paddock in the pouring rain, bit, kicked, been to the hospital (preferably on multiple occasions) from being injured in some way by a horse, and loved every bit of it.

(Guilty of all of the above)

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